“I think we should take some time apart, and maybe see other people…”
Those words probably hit you like a ton of bricks. You thought everything was fine, you thought he was happy, and then out of the blue your boyfriend tells you that he would like to start ‘seeing’ someone else.
What does it mean? Is he breaking up with you? Has your relationship finally ended?
Well, not yet. Yeah, it’s definitely a bad situation. Your soon-to-be ex is unhappy with certain aspects of the relationship and/or she already has another girl in mind. She is looking to see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, and she is already halfway over the fence when she makes this announcement.
At the same time, though, it’s a good sign that your boyfriend didn’t break up with you outright. His suggestion to see other people could be his way of asking for a trial separation, where he can see whether or not he would like to be with someone other than you. In the meantime, ideally your boyfriend wants you to do one thing: stay still. He knows that you still love him and that you don’t have anyone else on your mind, so this gives him a small window of opportunity to go out and do his thing…while he keeps the option to always get back with you if you don’t. . t works for him.
Stay in control of your relationship
You really only have two options here. Your first instinct will be to tell her NO… to fight against any possible breakup and try to convince her boyfriend to stay with you. You’ll be so terrified that he’ll like this new girl better that you’ll be willing to do or say anything to keep your romance going. This includes begging, pleading, or promising to “change” for him.
All of the above actions will put you in a very weak position. You are tilting your hand, letting him know that you need him MUCH more than he needs you. Essentially, you’re giving up full control over what happens next. Your boyfriend will quickly lose respect for you, knowing that you’ll probably be willing to stay and wait for him, even if he decides to see a new girlfriend.
How to handle it when your boyfriend wants to see someone else
The best you can do here is sixteen checks, walk away (temporarily), and push your boyfriend completely out of his comfort zone. This is where you need to be strong, telling your man that He is right…BOTH of you should start dating other people…and wish him the best of luck. That’s it, no more words, and then you’re gone.
Coming out of this scenario, your boyfriend’s jaw will be practically on the ground. Going along with the breakup is the last thing he expected. And the thought of you see other guys? This is not something I have thought about or prepared for. Thinking of you with another person is going to make him restless and very uncomfortable.
In short, you want your boyfriend to realize that you won’t be there if you decide to come back. You are taking away his safety net and forcing him to fly blind if he wants to pursue a new love interest. In this type of scenario, your boyfriend may not break up with you at all. The pros of staying together may outweigh the cons of losing you, and this will influence him much more than you think.
Get your boyfriend back if you’re on a break
Now, what if you’re already on a break or your boyfriend is already dating someone else? There are still ways to get it back, as long as you’re willing to be patient and play it slow. learning which methods and techniques are the best for getting your ex to love you back is absolutely crucial, and having a step-by-step plan is necessary so you know what to do.