Do you know the difference between a platonic friendship and an emotional affair? They are similar except that there is sexual attraction in an emotional affair and it is kept secret. Infidelity or infidelity, whether on a sexual or emotional level, can cause a broken marriage, divorce, a deep life of pain and sadness, or worse. To make sure you or your spouse are just with a friend, don’t worry about an emotional affair anymore; signs of marital problems right under your nose.
You are dealing with a fine line between platonic friendships and an emotional affair. Both are very similar, except that in an emotional affair, the cheating spouse becomes secretive about it and there is sexual attraction involved. If you notice any of these, it’s time to back out of the friendship and work on your marriage. As humans we assume that we are strong enough to distinguish between friendship and emotional dependency, and not cross that line. Coupled with neglect by someone or both partners in a marriage, it’s easy to let your guard down and cross that line without meaning to.
The question then arises of how to tell if you or your spouse are in an emotional affair. To find out if you are, then you have to be honest with yourself so you can take it seriously. If you suspect that this is the case, you need to start looking for answers to what is missing in your marriage and not start playing the blame game. Do the same if you suspect that your spouse is emotionally unfaithful. Just remember that divorce is only an ending, it is never the answer to the problem. Exactly what to do is more than the scope of this article is willing to cover.
There are also signs to look for in your marriage and in your or your spouse’s behavior if there is an emotional relationship. Many of these signs are the same as having a physical or sexual affair and are grouped together having these three characteristics to follow:
- Greater affective intimacy than in the marital relationship
- Secret and deceit of the couple.
- sexual chemistry
Internet affairs can cause the same problems as an emotional affair. Although there is never any meeting, and therefore no physical or face-to-face contact. This is because there is a way of satisfying certain needs that belong to the limits of marriage. And therefore the same signs can manifest from an internet fling and will cause just as much damage to your marriage if you let it.
Signs of Emotional Issues:
- Loss of interest in the other person.
- Share emotions and open up to others besides your spouse.
- Separate hobbies or ministries and increase participation in them
- attraction to another person
- Friendships with someone other than your spouse increase
- Lack of intimacy and sex.
- They both work full time and do separate activities.
- Separate finances (checkbooks, bank accounts, etc.)
- Hide things from your spouse
- Wanting to impress someone other than your spouse
- Are you trusting outsiders as much or more than your spouse? (Including friends, family, church leaders, etc.)
- A decrease in empathy and general caring.
- The partner secures your computer in a locked area or with passwords that you do not have access to
- An increase in outside activities
- One or more friends of the opposite sex
- It seems that the bad in marriage outweighs the good.
- And increase of friends.
- Petty arguments increase
- You feel that you no longer have anything in common or lose interest
- One of you is no longer attracted to the other
- The couple spends unusually long periods of time on the cell phone or computer.
- you keep things to yourself
- The partner becomes reserved or defensive when questioned about their behavior.
- The couple loses interest in the relationship or family activities.
- You often dream of a life without your spouse
- The partner stays at the computer very late at night after you have checked out.
If you’re wondering if you or your spouse are having an emotional affair, the signs of marital problems could be right under your nose. The best thing you can do is meet with your husband or wife and seek help. Professionals are expensive, but they can help you and your spouse figure out how to help and connect you with family counseling and therapy.
There are also places online to seek help or find other sources of help. Blogs, forums and websites created by experienced and caring webmasters who help by sending content, newsletters and online courses to help you and your spouse with emotional issues and other marital issues. Some are free and useful, but they usually can’t afford to support their free services. Other online courses charge for this service, but if you have questions or other problems, they provide answers as part of the package.
Whatever you choose, it will pay off to fix things in your marriage.