I recently searched the internet to find out what people were saying about writing love letters. I found a ton of advertised eBooks. Many of the ads talked about writing love letters to make the man or woman of your dreams fall head over heels for you.
A website wants almost a hundred dollars to show you how to do this. Yes of course. Where did I put my wallet?
My whole philosophy on how I write love letters is very different. I think of love notes as spreading love. I’m not doing it to seduce someone. I don’t plan, I plot, I connive. I just emit love like sunlight and don’t live in fear of what the answer will be.
Instead of thinking about writing love letters to make someone fall in love with me, I think of the process as a reflection of who I am on the inside. I write from the heart and I show you my soul. I don’t play distant or hard to come by. I’m not worried about appearing too eager or too easy.
I am who I am and I figure sooner or later the right person is going to resonate with me. My words will have an impact not because I have skillfully manipulated someone’s emotions, but because I have written what I stand for and that person likes it.
Have you seen or read The Secret? It is about the law of attraction and how it works. Of course, the law of attraction has been around for centuries and the great teachers of motivational thinking and positive psychology have been teaching it all along.
The law of attraction essentially says that you create your reality by how you think. If you constantly think good things, you will attract good things to you. If you constantly think pessimism, that is the awareness and experiences that you will attract to you.
So here’s the deal: If I entered a search or relationship with the mindset that I have to manipulate someone into loving me, that’s what I’m going to get. The whole relationship will be a fraud. The person I would like to love me would not really love me; she would love a cardboard fantasy image of me. Most likely, she is using similar tactics in an attempt to manipulate me!
I recommend using the law of attraction in a positive way. If you don’t have a relationship, use it to attract one. If you are in a relationship, use it to energize the bond you have created.
What does it means in practical terms? Think about what you want to happen in your love life. Think about what you want to create. Then write about it with all your heart.
Avoid thinking about what you don’t want or don’t have. Since you create your own reality through your thoughts, beliefs, and expectations, focusing on bad things only attracts bad things to you.
Common sense says that if you focus on the positive, you will simply have a happy brain. Constant love letter writing keeps the creative flow going, not just on paper but in real life. This ritual deliberately focuses your attention on what you love and, through the law of attraction, creates more of the same, more of the good.
If you’ve been in love before, you’ve probably experienced how exhilarating it is. And why is that? Because when you are falling in love you are much more focused on how good life is and how great love is.
People who met through emails and love letters often stop writing when they get together, often starting to focus on what’s wrong with the relationship or what they suddenly decide is missing. And what happens then? They attract a brain full of disgust.
So when you sit down to write love letters, my advice is to think about your motives and intentions. Write with a pure heart. As you generate thoughts, remember the golden rule. Besides being an iconic saying, it’s also the law of attraction in action. Think and do what you would like them to do with you.
While many love letters are sweet and uplifting, some people’s passion veers into the darkness of revenge, deceit, or punishment. Go there at your own risk. Every minute you spend in dark spaces is a minute you’re not attracting good things to you.
I write love letters because I like to spread love. It feels good to think of delicious things to write about. It helps me focus on what specifically would make me very happy, and I know my partner will want a lot of these things too.
I should point out that this is not just about romantic love. It can also be the love of friends (write letters from good friends) or spiritual friends. I can be about family, too.
Love letters flow from my brain much more smoothly when they come from the heart, without censoring my thoughts or machinations to write what I think someone wants to read. I think of my love letters as truth letters because I write freely and speak about my reality.