Now that the Tiger Woods affair is officially out of the bag and I’ve gotten over my initial reluctance, it sheds light on some important themes of infidelity and monogamy that require deeper exploration. Why did he do it, especially with such a perfect life and wife? The fact that he could cheat on a beautiful ex-model doesn’t make any woman safe and prompts questions from women like, “Well, if he could cheat on HER, then men would cheat on anyone.” Well, after testing the situation, I’ve broken down my analysis of why Tiger, and most men, cheat on their beautiful women, in the hope that you’ll take the lessons learned from them and behold yourself. same.
1. Self-sabotage. It’s been seen over and over again with celebrities, from Britney Spears to Mel Gibson to Michael Jackson, and recognized even more clearly by relationship experts like me: the pattern of sabotaging one area of your life when everything else is going well, even in its heyday. Cheating is one of those things that is very much the manifestation of this self-sabotage, as the more successful the person is and the more they have to lose, unfortunately, the more often we tend to see this type of behavior.
2. Power and success. The level of success and power of the man is the first important factor that is in play here. The more powerful and successful a man is, the more attractive he is to women and the greater the abundance of women and options he has at his fingertips. Add to that this continual influx of women and the affection further feeds their power and ego so they literally become attention-addicted and being completely faithful to just one woman just deprives them of that.
3. Opportunity. Opportunity is everywhere for these men in power, beautiful women, and sex is constantly thrown in their faces. They may even rationalize it by thinking, “If I say yes to only 1 in 500 women who push me…that’s pretty good!”
4. Boredom at home: The fact that these men have such an abundance of women and opportunities all the time, these women they are married to need to realize this and make sure to increase their level of excitement and variety in the home. They must be very careful not to fall into the trap of getting too comfortable and gaining weight, falling into predictable routines, and neglecting romance. Exhibit A: Jennifer Anniston vs. Angelina Jolie.
5. Challenge: Men often cheat to gain some of the excitement and challenge they’ve missed since entering a monogamous relationship. People often make the mistake of wrapping their entire world around their partner, freely expressing their love and commitment to them and, as a result, diminishing any remaining sense of challenge for their partner. Even though a woman may be celebrity and beautiful, she is still subject to this same crime and therefore prone to creating the same result with her man. If she loses herself in him and doesn’t challenge him, no matter how beautiful she is, eventually he’ll wonder if she settled and he’ll be turned on by a woman who pursues him more.
These are some of the most common reasons why men cheat, and why I personally feel that Tiger has cheated on me, even with such a wonderful life and such a beautiful wife by his side. Read them, learn from them… and post your comments and thoughts!