Women of the feminine gender seem to have an innate desire to improve, nurture, and organize things. There’s nothing wrong with that… except when it turns to a romantic relationship.
People are who and what they are. They don’t change because we see potential in them. They don’t change because we want them to be more, better… different. Snakes bite, wolves howl, and scorpions sting. That’s how it is. Why can’t women accept that you can’t turn a frog into a prince no matter how many times you kiss him?
Start with self-love and self-acceptance
Women are known to destroy themselves. Beautiful, accomplished women who present themselves as self-assured will often display an unstable sense of self-worth and will look for things to criticize themselves for.
I’ve also noticed that women who feel like they’re not good enough or flawed have ridiculously high expectations of the men in their lives, or no expectations at all. A consummate professional woman can single out and fall madly in love with some loser. Unfortunately, these women secretly believe that they are not worthy and do not deserve better.
“I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we’ve been living together for 2 months. He has a daughter from another relationship, so he pays child support. The only other bills he has are the truck payment and car insurance. car. He never offers to help pay our household bills. When he gets paid, he buys clothes, shoes, and things to fix his truck. I cook for him, do his laundry, put gas in his truck, and basically pay for everything He asked me to help him pay for the truck since I drive it a lot. One day at lunch we talked about our past and he mentioned that he has always been pampered by the women in his life. Is he a leech or is he a pampered and in Do you need someone to open your eyes to the way you act?”
A woman with two kids moving in with a guy she’s only known for a few months? Paying for gas on her truck? Wash her clothes and feed her? And she never asked him to pay a fair share of household expenses? Is this really the best man she hopes to have?
real men fart with glee
And burp, like old clothes because they are comfortable. Men love to play with their big boy toys like power saws and engine blocks. They also leave their socks on the floor, prefer sports to shopping, forget about birthdays, and really enjoy looking at boobs no matter who they’re on.
“I have been living with a man I dated for 8 months before I moved in with him. The problem is that he has no manners. He swears a lot, eats like a savage, leaves his things where he throws them, is critical of others, and judgmental I’ve looked everywhere for advice on dating manners but I can never seem to find any advice beyond whether or not he opens the door for you I want to be able to open the floor for negotiation I want to change a lot or I’m prepared to do it. How do I talk about this far-reaching topic with my guy? I feel like I’m leaving him or changing him. I just want to be able to relax at home with or without him. Can I really hope to improve this?”
Whatever he enjoyed doing before you met him, the manners he had (or lacked), his attitudes, and any weird friends or family he had before you showed up should all be considered part of the package. You want it? Well, if you take it with you, you get all those “extra goodies” too.
Your way is not the only way
There are some women who constantly criticize and complain about the behavior of men. These women just don’t seem to understand that because they believe something “should” be a certain way, the men they date are not required to live up to those expectations.
I know a woman in her 40s who is outraged if she calls a man and he doesn’t call her back right away. She never considers what may be going on in her life that might take precedence over her call! She hasn’t accepted the fact that a man she’s not yet involved with calls her whenever she feels like it. She doesn’t understand that if he doesn’t feel the need to talk to her or the desire to hear her voice, her phone won’t ring.
Her belief that a man “should” call back promptly and that such a call is “common courtesy” is simply her own belief system. He does not make such a belief a fact; nor does it force a man to adopt his belief system and adhere to it.
Eliminate the words “should”, “should” and “why can’t you” from your vocabulary. He is what he is. If you are not satisfied with a man’s behavior, thought processes, inclinations, or personality, go ahead and NEXT. Breaking it is the most honest and decent thing to do. It means that he may be a nice guy, but you recognize that he’s probably not the best man for you. you long-term.
Men are only perfect in soap operas
Feeling comfortable with and accepting others as mere humans with imperfections and problems must begin with acceptance of oneself. Love yourself just the way you are with your thick thighs, your two left feet, and your birthmark. If you think you’d be even more fabulous with an extra education or a new haircut to boost your Diva attitude, then go for it! But learn to be okay with yourself and you can easily be okay with others, whether you decide to continue your interaction with them or not.
Men gravitate towards confident, confident women who accept them as men. Men love to be around women who accept their flaws, tolerate their less-than-perfect behavior, and love them anyway. It seems to me that we are all looking for the same thing.
Remember that.