Millions of us women are looking for a solution that helps advance our relationships and hopefully reach the altar. They feel like they are stuck or in a neutral / stagnant phase in their relationship. Often times, women think this is happening because of something they did or because something is wrong with them.
For some reason, men can’t seem to explain what goes on inside them. Most women don’t know what to do or how to get them to open up. This can be a very painful and discouraging situation. Our natural tendency (as women) is to blame ourselves. We don’t know what to do and we are frustrated by the lack of communication.
It’s one thing when a guy you’ve dated for a short time walks away from you. Of course it’s annoying … but not as annoying as if you were dating for years and he still wasn’t engaged to her. This is extremely painful after your years of devotion to him. He looks in the mirror and says “What’s wrong?”, “What did I do?” or “How can I fix this?” It’s hard to answer those questions when your partner isn’t communicating. Some men struggle to express to you or someone exactly what they are feeling or thinking.
You don’t want to be aggressive, manipulative, or play mind games. That can drive you away even faster. Nobody wants to “make” someone stay with them or commit to them.
Listens. Many of us have been in this situation. It’s actually quite embarrassing when you can’t seem to get a man to commit to you. Sometimes you start to feel that you are not worthy of their love or a healthy relationship. There are always reminders … like your friends asking you when you’re getting married or why you’re still not married after so many years of dating. Women tend to feel that they are the ones who put all the effort into the relationship and want to know how to get him to contribute.
Let’s go. We don’t want to drag them to the altar. We don’t want to offer ultimatums or threats to leave. That is not what most women want.
Stop wasting your time and wondering what to do about it. Keep your chin up and a smile on your face. It’s not your fault! You must take some action if you really want to move your relationship forward. See the resource box for more information.