The advice in this article comes from a poem a man wrote. If you are a woman reading this, pay attention because you are worthy of this advice! If you are a man, this poem has a magical key to your heart.
Maybe it’s because I don’t have a daughter to advise. Sometimes I think of the girl she was in my late teens and twenties and long to give a girl the advice now available to me from this forty-something perspective. Yesterday, I came across something a man wrote that captures the advice I would give you. I think the advice strikes a more golden chord because it comes from a man. So I want to share it with you today.
If you are a woman and you are reading this, pay attention because you are worthy of this advice! Whether you are single or in a relationship, you deserve to be treated with care, love, and adoration. In a word, you deserve to be appreciated. If you don’t know this about yourself, you may be in the habit of behaving in ways that disrespect and mistreat you. Or you may be in the habit of giving in to disrespect and abuse because you don’t value yourself enough to insist on better treatment. The advice I am about to give through a poem a man wrote is best received the more you love yourself.
If you are a man reading this, the advice I will quote from this man is like a magic key. You treat the woman you love in this way, and if she loves herself enough, she will respond in such a way that you may feel that she really doesn’t deserve her. But if you treat her like that, you deserve it from her! He just continues to love her.
what kind of man
By Colin Martin
Find a man who calls you beautiful instead of sexy.
Who calls you back when you hang up?
Who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat?
Or he’ll stay awake just to watch you sleep.
Wait for the man, who kisses your forehead,
Who wants to show you off to the world when you’re in sweats?
Who takes your hand in front of his friends,
Who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup?
A man who constantly reminds you how much he cares about you.
And how lucky he is to have YOU.
A man who turns to his friends and says: “That’s her…”
The number one reason people have relationship problems is because they don’t love each other enough to have behavioral standards that protect them from being hurt. People who love themselves inspire respect. It doesn’t mean they never get hurt. But attracting abuse and chronic pain doesn’t happen or doesn’t happen for long with those who love themselves. Their love is deep enough that they can practice tough love that sets good boundaries. They are capable of practicing tough love that sets good examples of how to live and love.
Think about Colin’s poem today. If he is male, does it apply to his marriage or romantic relationship? If you are single, can it apply to you the next time you fall in love? And will it apply six months, a year, six years later?
If you are a woman, can you believe to your feet that you deserve such affection? When you believe it, you will attract it.
I raise my glass in applause for you, hoping it will.