Online dating has started as a last resort from the social misfit, to one of the most active methods of meeting people. For those of you who have busy lives or who may be dealing with a lot of shyness issues, you should take a look at online resources as a great tool to expand your dating circle.
You must determine your current dating goal before proceeding. What do you want from your online interaction with the opposite sex?
- Friendship? Someone to talk to?
- Romance?
- A short or long term relationship?
- Casual dating with many boyfriends/girlfriends?
- Wedding?
After determining your current goals, you need to take action accordingly.
Your first action should be to write a personal ad to make your profile shine:
- Be creative and different to arouse the interest of the opposite sex.
- Never seem like you need approval in your ad or in your life.
- Start with an attractive romantic image and mix it with some humor.
- Write your ad poetically and non-specifically. Listing your hobbies or must-write articles is a bit suicidal in this huge sea of fish and will only make you lose in the online dating game.
Unfortunately, the game does not end here. Uploading photos of yourself is essential for a successful profile:
- Your portrait photo (first photo) is the first one seen on your profile and is the most important, so choose it wisely.
- Do not upload photos where you think you look more handsome but you look happier. The warmth of a smile can melt the ice in the hearts of others.
- Try to find photographs in which you have participated in interesting activities such as surfing, dancing, playing an instrument…
Now you’re ready to start enjoying the benefits of online dating, but the game isn’t over yet. The last and most important action is the sending of emails that can have an effect:
- Always include a personal item indicating the possible date you read your profile. Don’t just drool at the picture.
- Be fun, creative, different, challenging their sensibilities, and approachable.
- Remember that some profiles receive hundreds of emails every day, so this is the area where you need to shine. So always send tailored letters. Never try the copy and paste approach.
- If he/she responds to you, you have already started to make progress, don’t wait too long to take the relationship to the next level in offline dating or someone else will.
You must keep in mind that dating is not an easy game and requires a lot of work, even years of love relationships need it. Online dating is no different and takes determination and commitment.
So the point is: online dating will work for you, if you make it work for you.
Good things do not come to those who wait, but to those who go and get them.