Ruined orgasms are perhaps the worst thing that can happen to a man kept in strict chastity and orgasm denial.
First, let’s see which one is. A ruined orgasm is when you drive your lover right to the point of no return…and then stop all stimulation so that her orgasm continues, but cut off from any contact or other stimulation.
I know, doesn’t sound so bad, right?
I mean, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm, right?
Wrong.
I know from the ruined orgasms I’ve given my husband, John, that they are worse than no orgasm at all. Let that sit for a moment, because I realize it’s completely counterintuitive.
Why give your man a ruined orgasm?
Well, there are several reasons.
Tea first It’s like a kind of punishment. I’m not really into the dominatrix thing, but sometimes if you want to make a point, giving a ruined orgasm is a good way to go.
I think it’s so powerful because the moment you feel that point of no return being crossed, you’re thinking, “oh god yes… I cum, I cum!“…but then you STOP before the first real contraction you feel…and of course you’re not cumming at all after that, right?
Tea second the reason for doing so is utilitarian: to empty his prostate without bothering to milk him internally or externally, and without giving him a full orgasm.
There’s no convincing medical evidence to suggest that milking is definitely necessary for prostate health, but it doesn’t hurt to empty it from time to time, and you don’t have to break the “no orgasm” rule to do so.
Et a third the reason is… just because you can. Believe it or not, a ruined orgasm leaves your man feeling even more frustrated than before. Strange but true. So really, it’s just another tool in your “mockery and denial” toolbox.
A great twist on this is if you like horns. Tie your husband to a chair where he can watch you and your lover in action, and then when you’ve had your fill of your hot lover and are drenched in her cum, sit on your husband’s lap and let him in.
Barely moving your hips, ask him how much he enjoyed watching you make love to your lover, and ask him if he wants to cum inside you like your lover just did.
He’s bound to say yes…and just when he gets to that point…just get off him and you and your lover can enjoy watching your husband squirm and moan in frustration as he suffers his ruined orgasm. The presence of her lover watching this makes it even more tortuous for her husband.
Caveat– Every time you plan to give your man a ruined orgasm, you MUST hold his hands. If he doesn’t, then to the best of his ability, he won’t be able to stop himself from “Ending“.
The effect is really that powerful.
As always, before you play this or any other sexy game, do your research so you both know what to expect.