If you’ve heard stories in the past about men dating Russian girlfriends that they’ve taken advantage of financially, it’s only natural for you to have those concerns for yourself while enjoying the dating process as well. While this is a legitimate concern, there are ways to protect yourself until you’ve officially brought your girlfriend home and entered the happy marriage you finally want.
1. Don’t send money! If a woman of any nationality asks you to make a substantial bank transfer of money, you simply should not do so. There is no way to reverse these money transfers and you cannot verify who is collecting the money at the other end or what they will do with the money. It is best for you not to send money this way, no matter the circumstances.
Dating a Russian girlfriend is not about how much money you can send or promise them when they say “I do.” It’s about establishing legitimate love connections that will last for many years and should in no way include sending large amounts of money to women you don’t know very well. If a woman seems to insist that you send her money to continue a relationship, ask yourself what kind of relationship you want in the end. Most likely, she is not the best girl for you.
2. Don’t pay for things until you really meet a woman. If you are dating a Russian girlfriend who seems to expect you to pay for things on her behalf, you should use the same logic mentioned above. You shouldn’t be required to buy her love, and if she expects you to, consider whether that’s the kind of relationship you really want to have. You are building the foundations of your future right now, and trying to buy it is not a stable starting point. If she seems more interested in what you can pay for her than who you are as a person, then that should tell you something about what she is looking for in the relationship.
However, don’t confuse this advice with Russian dating etiquette! When you finally meet your Russian girlfriend, you will be expected to pay all expenses on your dates. Do not think that this is being used, because it is not the case. It is tradition in Russian culture that men pay all expenses when they are on a date. In addition to this, you are also expected to pay for your travel and accommodation expenses. Simply put, most Russian women do not earn enough to pay for airfare and hotel accommodation, particularly if they are in a city like Moscow or St. Petersburg!
3. Don’t be fooled by appeals that seem legitimate for financial aid. There are professional scammers looking to take advantage of your search for real love. They are not ashamed to make you believe that she is a sexy young lady who wants to marry you, while in reality they are men and possibly already living in your country! If you are dating a Russian girlfriend and you come across a woman who is constantly asking for money for various reasons, the alarm should go off.
If you receive a request for money from a woman you have gotten to know and really trust, you should test the situation a bit to see if she is being real with you. An easy way to do this is to decline the money transfer once. If you’ve already sent money to him and requests for more and more keep coming in, then it’s a good idea to tell him you can’t do it the next time he asks. A scammer will assume they have used you for all they can get and you will probably never hear from them again.
4. Use common sense! Whenever you are in doubt as to whether you are being tricked or seduced by a legitimate love interest, always trust common sense. There is a general sense of character that can be judged over time in meeting someone, and you should pay attention to those little feelings in all cases. The worst feeling in the world is dating a Russian girlfriend who happens to be after your money, not an actual marriage in the future. Often times, you can save yourself this pain simply by tuning in to your natural cues that tell you when something may be wrong with a particular woman.